Getting To YES

A friend recommended I read Getting To YES by Roger Fisher and William Ury.  I don’t remember the reason he gave for suggesting it, but I know now that I needed to read it.

For most of my adult life I approached disagreements as contests; I wanted to win.  It’s actually worse than that, I wanted the other person to know that I had won – and they had lost.  I can say I was competitive, but I think the real reason was ego.  My ego has caused a lot of problems, but that’s for another post.

I really appreciated the authors examples and suggestions on how to reach a solution that is fair and respectful to all parties.  And the authors emphasized that I, too, needed respect in the process and solution.  I must not make a bad agreement just to appease the other side.  It was this continual theme of respect for all parties that impressed me.  Although the authors made no references or claims, I feel the book’s principles coincide well with Jesus life and teachings.

I recommend this book to those of you who find yourself negotiating on a regular basis, whether that be at work, organization, religious group, or home.  With practice, I think it will add a breath of Shalom to what once held dread and resulted in injured relationships.

My notes on this book can be downloaded in MS Word format from the blue “FILES box” in the left side-bar of this blog.  Look for “Getting To YES” as you scroll through the box.


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3 responses to “Getting To YES

  1. Brenda Weller

    Excellent! Sounds like something that needs to be studied and discussed in a group setting.

    Keep on being competitive for The Lord with these new outlooks and techniques. It is great to hear you growing in your relationship with The Lord and how he is shaping your ability to work for the furtherance of His kingdom.

    Blessings, Brenda – YSIC

  2. Thank you for this post and drawing my attention to ‘Getting to YES’. It has really helped with my University degree. I am currently studying the processes of negotiation and conflict with an assignment being to address issues via my own blog.

  3. Insightful post, I will definitely be checking that book out. As a student about to Graduate I know that i will be entering the world of negotiation, especially when it comes to my first salary! I have actually just posted on how to get that win-win situation when negotiating. Saby

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