Wednesday 28 October 2015 · 11:30 am
The October 12th issue of Tme magazine had an interesting article on happiness. Let me share some of the things that struck me.
People in the USA think of happiness differently than other people in the world. (We also think of it differently than the founders of the USA. See my blog post titled “the Pursuit of Happiness“.) Other cultures view happiness as a group event. Social interaction is intended to increase the happiness of others as well as myself. To us, happiness is an individual pursuit of success, possessions, and status. Yet these self-focused pursuits lead us to continual disappointment and discouragement instead of the happiness we seek.
Besides a major worldview overhaul of seeing happiness as a group event rather than an individual quest, there are five simple suggestions that science says can help in our happiness.
- Relax. People who view time as a limited resource are more happy within calm rather than excitement.
- Schedule. Intentionally schedule times/events that produce happiness.
- Be Present. Rather than agonizing over what has passed or what has not yet come, live in the right now.
- Get Real. No one can be happy all the time. Embrace the sunny days when they come, and accept the rainy days that are certain to appear. In fact, be thankful for that rain.
- Savor. Enjoy good moments when they come. Don’t take them for granted. And reflect on those good times, reliving the feelings.
Friday 10 July 2015 · 8:06 pm
Every year I try to read a few books that I was supposed to read in high school but didn’t. I just finished “Uncle Tom’s Cabin”, and chapter 28 had a section that made me think of our horrible failure to be Christ-like in “Jerusalem” and “Samaria”. I’ll type some of it below, and you see if you can read “missions” into it.
“But, suppose we [the South] should rise up tomorrow and emancipate, who would educate these millions, and teach them how to use their freedom? …The fact is, we [the South] are too lazy and unpractical, ourselves, ever to give them much of an idea of that industry and energy which is necessary to form them into men. …and tell me, now, is there enough Christians [in the North]…to bear with the process of their education and elevation? You [Christians in the North] send thousands of dollars to foreign missions; but could you endure to have…your time, and thoughts, and money to raise [the freed slaves] to the Christian standard? That’s what I want to know. If we emancipate, are you willing to educate? [Would you help them with housing, jobs, job training, education for children, etc.?] We [the South] are the more obvious oppressors of the Negro; but the unchristian prejudice of the north is an oppressor almost equally severe.”
The book was published in 1852. How much progress have we made in 163 years?
Sunday 20 July 2014 · 7:20 pm
I thought Finding Calcutta by Mary Poplin would be a casual read – some good stories but nothing to write down, meditate about, and share. I was wrong. Mary Poplin spent a period of months working beside Mother Teresa. She is a professor at U of Texas, but writes so even I can understand. She writes about her inner and outer journey during those months, and I find her insights pierce me.
“Discouragement is a sign of pride. It shows that I was focused on results, perhaps in my own power, rather than faith and obedience to God’s direction and his responsibility for results.”
As I read, I was faced with my own self. Her insights on generosity humbled and frightened me, and I realized that I’ve never really sacrificed. Her experiences of obedience stressed that my faithfulness to God’s present call prepares me for his call later. If God calls me to wash windows, I must wash them so the angels stop and say, “There is a great window washer, a man faithful to his call. What a servant of God!” Obedience is the path to “my Calcutta”.
This book is an easy, but slow, read. It was easy to understand, but the application of what I understood made me pause in every chapter. Truth is like that.
Friday 13 June 2014 · 8:41 pm
Sometimes I have my doubts. Specifically, I wonder if I have overestimated God’s grace. Do I count on his mercy and forgiveness too much?
I try to live true to my faith, but I seldom live a day that exemplifies what I understand the life of a disciple should be. I tell God I’m sorry, and I sincerely am, then I resolve to do better tomorrow. I count on Jesus to keep me in right standing with God despite my sins of yesterday and in the face of sins to come tomorrow.
What if Jesus is screaming, “Stop it! Just stop this sin! Where is your faith? Where is your commitment? Where is your love for God? Why do you keep calling me LORD but treating me like a “get out of jail free” card?” What if he’s saying that to me?
I read something this week that helped me. I’m sure the Holy Spirit stuck this in my face so I could stop doubting the degree, longevity, and sincerity of God’s forgiveness. It came from an obvious place – the Bible. I was reading Matthew 26 when verses 31 and 32 fell into alignment for me.
Jesus told the disciples that all of them would desert him. He explained that Scripture foretold their flight. Yes, Jesus knew all along that the disciples’ vows of allegiance would fall short of their conduct. Then Jesus immediately makes a simple statement that changed my doubt into faith. He tells them that he will meet them in Galilee after he has risen from the dead. In my paraphrase, it goes something like, “You all are going to desert me, BUT (despite this desertion) I want to meet up with you after it’s over.”
Jesus knows I’ll fall short just like the disciples, BUT he wants to meet with me anyhow. In my heart, I heard Jesus say, “Phipps, I know you sin, but I still want you with me.”
Tuesday 20 May 2014 · 1:09 pm
This book, by Jeffrey Marx, was recommended to me by a man who is highly involved in coaching youth football. I know next to nothing about football, so I wasn’t sure I would like it. I was hooked in the first three chapters. Here is an excerpt from chapter three.
“What is our job as coaches?” he asked. “To love us,” the boys yelled back in unison. “What is your job?” Joe shot back. “To love each other,” the boys responded. The words were spoken with the familiarity of a mantra, the commitment of an oath, the enthusiasm of a pep rally. This was football?
The coach, Joe Ehrmann, was a former professional football player. His devotion to these high school players is not focused on football skills or winning but in helping them become exemplary young men. His code revolves around four “strategic masculinity traits” that form what he calls “the moral and ethical foundation” of a man. Joe believes these traits must be intentionally taught to boys. “It will not just happen on its own.” The traits are:
- accepting responsibility
- leading courageously
- enacting justice on behalf of others
- expecting God’s greater rewards
The author follows the football team through a season, and is able to see the challenges as well as the celebrations. His meetings with “Coach Joe” changed his life, and I’m sure will continue to reach and change the lives of many others. “Coach Joe” expands on topics such false masculintiy, relationships of a real man, working for a greater cause, and empathy. This book is a wealth of good advice and example. God knows we need good examples.
This book reaches beyond football – to anyone who cares for the future of manhood. The definition of manhood is changing, and not always toward the good. Internal character is being replaced with brash talk, attitudes that treat women as objects, and an coveting an image of being powerful, wealthy, or both.
“Good” doesn’t just happen. Being bad is easy with all the bad role models and idle time. Being good takes work on the part of many people. This book moves me to join those who work for the change toward good.